Just this past week I was busy with some cold-calling. I know I am new as a trainer, and that means I have no past career with this role. I doesn´t mean thou´ that I am unexperienced with decision-making. On top, I offer a single leadership topic which is …. quite tense. I heard voices like: “I make my own decisions”, “there is no need to share a conversation about it” or “I can make decisions”. Voices from the opposite side of openness.
Defense has a purpose: people defend themselves when they feel attacked. Which is good! Although I simply make offers with my leadership topic, people “feel” attacked. It must come from the mindset that “nothing is wrong with me”. But, did I subliminally indicate this kind of “lack”? No. Not from my side, especially if I don´t know the people at all. I make offers to think about our decision-making knowledge, not the individual ability. I have the feeling that I offer the red embittered apple from the Snow White fairy tale.
Let´s look to our stage of life: where do we live in the 21st Century? It´s not Middle Ages anymore. Our World Nations and individual Countries are set and sorted: we have laws, we have rules, we have culture, we have languages, we have education and we have circles of friends and business partners. We´re clustered. If you´re moving among those circles, free, on the loose, there´s almost no way to get into such a bundle. Unless: you´re bitterly needed.
What about a FATE-role?
How do you re-act to living a (fix) fate-role in life? Do you (try to) study it´s source to make rational decisions to deal with it and fight it? DO YOU? Do you really work on turning a FATE-role away from your daily life?
I think this is a typical challenge where decision-making shall come to action!
It´s strategic and it needs to be reviewed. FATE is defined in WIKI-pedia as a predetermined course of events. Its trickiness is that it seems to be unavoidable.
OKAY, how about a typical fate-role: you´re born into a poor family. Fate.
There´s no way to try to change how THIS happened to you or why you chose it. It´s done – deal with it. Make decisions to turn this fate-role away from your future! If you don´t, you´ll stay in the poor position. Is that your wish? To get away from such a fate-role you need to make rational decisions. Fight this fate! Use strong decision-making as the leading method.
Here´s a second fate-role: if you´re born quite intelligent, living in a Country where people shouldn´t discover their own will and dreams or you´re a girl, who has to live beneath the glass ceiling, you can fight your fate-role with your decision-making ability. Only! Fighting fate doesn´t mean to enter a battle field, because it´s your own fight. There is no crew or team who all feel the same like you do, no, every other individual can only make their own move, strategically, like moving a figure on a chessboard. Chessboard players play with a strong decision mind! They move foresighted but only with a few steps ahead in their mind – they can´t see the final end when starting the game.
Take the third fate-role: if you´re a small country, connected to a bigger one which suddenly changes the course of direction to which you agreed once but now you disagree, you can only become loud with your decisions. Share your goals first! Offer those goals as an argument, be prepared for the idea to cut yourself off and be detailed about your future and how you will get there! This is where strategy comes to play: your moves are your decisions! Review the bearing you´ll face. Be sure you want this –
Moving your fate-role on your own chessboard takes one decision after the other! Permanent decision-making is strongly connected to a strategic mind. Fight FATE with rational decisions!
Go for it – and we´ll meet – I am out there, too to become THE expert!
BE A DECISION MAKER. BE OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –