Relationships: Decision Making On A Private Scale

In my last BLog-post from Wednesday I mentioned the remaining three areas which still offer us the freedom to choose.  It´s relationships, career and healthiness.

In my short article, I approached the thought about the “relationships” for teams within companies.  If we build teams we need to match people to make the team run.  It´s about their tasks on one hand and about similar convictions on the other hand, to work hand in hand.

Let´s look at the private relationships today!

To start from scratch, decisions about private relationships are either to become a couple (1+1=2) and marry or opposite, to separate (2-1=1) and live as a single in the near future.  If you are emotionally sure to do the right thing, in either way  –>  sit down and write about the goal you are about to reach!

It could be the goal to end being a single, dating your spouse and now you check out what it means to become a couple from now on.  The decision-problem for you might be:  “am I ready to be a spouse?”   To get the answers:  list all the remaining uncertainties, consequences, linked decisions and trade-offs to your alternative which is “to get married”.

Opposite, if you think about a divorce, the decision problem might be:  “will I be able to survive as a single?”   (….unless you enjoy the luxury of having a lover….)  To get the relevant answers:  list all the appearing uncertainties, the new consequences, linked decisions and trade-offs to your alternative which is “to separate to become a single”.

In both cases be sure that “ending something” is no real decision problem, because it belongs to the past.  Therefore, a potential divorce isn´t approached by thinking that the problem is the partner or to get rid of her/him.  Separation-Decisions (to separate from the past status) are rather a motivation for you than a real “decision problem”.  If there is no problem for you, you do what you´re up to.  It´s that easy.  You simply decide.

The problem relates to the future, always!  It relates to the consequences and trade-offs you will suffer, or enjoy!  A separation emotionally relates to being able to “suddenly” live on your own.  That´s the “problem” you have to think of and discover in detail.

Be sure you start your decision process approach with the right problem.  The problem is the N°1 of the 8 components for decision making.  Remember,  you only solve a problem with a solution which is the new goal and this is placed right into your future!

 

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BECOME OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –