In my last BLog-post from Wednesday I mentioned the remaining three areas which still offer us the freedom to choose. It´s relationships, career and healthiness.
In my short article, I approached the thought about the “relationships” for teams within companies. If we build teams we need to match people to make the team run. It´s about their tasks on one hand and about similar convictions on the other hand, to work hand in hand.
Let´s look at the private relationships today!
To start from scratch, decisions about private relationships are either to become a couple (1+1=2) and marry or opposite, to separate (2-1=1) and live as a single in the near future. If you are emotionally sure to do the right thing, in either way –> sit down and write about the goal you are about to reach!
It could be the goal to end being a single, dating your spouse and now you check out what it means to become a couple from now on. The decision-problem for you might be: “am I ready to be a spouse?” To get the answers: list all the remaining uncertainties, consequences, linked decisions and trade-offs to your alternative which is “to get married”.
Opposite, if you think about a divorce, the decision problem might be: “will I be able to survive as a single?” (….unless you enjoy the luxury of having a lover….) To get the relevant answers: list all the appearing uncertainties, the new consequences, linked decisions and trade-offs to your alternative which is “to separate to become a single”.
In both cases be sure that “ending something” is no real decision problem, because it belongs to the past. Therefore, a potential divorce isn´t approached by thinking that the problem is the partner or to get rid of her/him. Separation-Decisions (to separate from the past status) are rather a motivation for you than a real “decision problem”. If there is no problem for you, you do what you´re up to. It´s that easy. You simply decide.
The problem relates to the future, always! It relates to the consequences and trade-offs you will suffer, or enjoy! A separation emotionally relates to being able to “suddenly” live on your own. That´s the “problem” you have to think of and discover in detail.
Be sure you start your decision process approach with the right problem. The problem is the N°1 of the 8 components for decision making. Remember, you only solve a problem with a solution which is the new goal and this is placed right into your future!
BE A DECISION MAKER. BECOME OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –