Why do some reach their goals with a good decision process while others seem to fail?
On one of the feedback-notes (of a seminar) this year I received the request for “how to make sound decisions”.
I smiled when reading a request for a proven decision path, as if someone hopes for a guaranteed decision process. The overall secret of how to make sound decisions, with no losses but only gains.
I wish there would be such a proven decision making process but I am sorry, there is nothing close I can sell to you. Of course there is a structure you are able to follow but the filling, the sustainability you are looking for, is the mix of your own in-put and (re)actions.
The seed we start from, the basics we rely to are our core values. Every person acts upon values. And every company which has a core mission or mission statement, will decide following this mission statement. It´s all about the rules we set-up on our own as orientation. We start at a certain point, set a goal and orient during our long approach on the values we believe in.
The true secret is that THIS IS the proven decision process which we shall follow!
Unfortunately, everyone should be aware of their values, which is the individual orientation everyone will follow until reaching the goal. Nobody, no coach and no consultant, is able to tell and sell you those individual values! So there´s some work to do before you start.
And this secret carries a second secret inside like a Trojan: the core values we tend to follow are the motor, the motivation why we keep going!
Let me give you some examples:
Core Value = Freedom
People who long for freedom, like financial freedom, will put every effort in their daily life to get there. They find several ways to work themsleves onto the level from which they can start working on getting away from employment. It starts with education, talent, networking, adding work-life-experience, etc. The structure to educate and learn to get ahead is what they have to find out individually but DOING it all, one after the other, is the decision process. Every decision seperates them from their past just to lead themselves into the future. It means permanent change. We change things in life by deciding to go ahead. The magnet is their set goal.
Core value = Family
People who long for a family, with kids and friends, will put every effort in their daily or weekly life to reach this goal. Since it involves other people, like a potential spouse, they have less control how long it takes to get there. They will permanently meet with groups, start dating, read books or interview their friends, relatives or a mentor, consult a coach – whatever it takes to become a lovable and understanding person to reach the necessary sustainability. Still, there is no guarantee that it´ll last forever but if they learn the “right” thing and do it, chances are good it does.
Core value = Growth and Stability
Companies who concentrate on growth will do everything to keep it going: they need to educate their employees or make sure they do it on their own. They need to offer a good work environment to offer a comfortable work place, the need employeese who have ideas for innovation or buy it from agencies, and they need to make sure that the growth is under control, to keep a certain stability. There will be times to stop growth and reach stability. No easy task! It means a lot of decision making will be involved and everyone has to follow this direction. Employees should have and share the same core values: go for growth and offer stability.
Therefore no book on earth can give you the written script for your life, with all right decisions to take! Remember that you only learn by making mistakes.
The so-called mistakes will collide with your core values, and help you figuring out what your true values are. This is also the reason why you can´t copy what others do or decide in life. Every “wrong” decision will immediately collide with your core values.
Now go ahead and prove yourself!
BE A DECISION MAKER. BE OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –