One of the 5 tripping hazards during your decision making is to mind your mind!
Did you ever listen to a story from someone of which you lacked some information and then you started filling-in the blanks with your own thoughts, nurtured by your own past experience and (un-informed) opinion?
Exactly! We all did it until we had to wake up. Some of us still do it.
Fact: we often project our own issues. We all have hangups and faults which we find once we seek. And because we´re so familiar with our own issues and experience in life we tend to notice them everywhere we turn. Especially in others. The mirror-effect!
Lately I read online, that C.S. Lewis said the following about pride: “The more we have it in ourselves, the more we dislike it in others”. And it´s not just pride, most failings are like that. When we don´t have the full story we often fill-in the blanks with our own issues. It´s unconscious at first, but suddenly we´ve assigned motives and condemned someone when we are really just imagining things.
The only positive thing about it is that people who do that indirectly ask for more information and in the end they get the full story. It´s challenging those who were misunderstood by this unconscious method. Be sure you know how you function when you use your brain!
When deciding, be awake before you choose. You might reach your goal real quick!
BE A DECISION MAKER. BE OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –