Sometimes it´s not about the options and alternatives why you may have trouble deciding. It can be part of your character as well, especially when you´re a maximizer-type.
“What is a maximizer(?)”, might be your silent question right now. Let me wrap it into 1 sentence: a maximizer only wants, takes and buys the best she or he can get in life.
That includes that maximizers need and take a lot of time before they decide for something particular and afterwards they keep asking themselves whether it was the best they chose, ….. or not? As a result they are more dissatisfied than other people and keep-on looking. Acting this out, they additionally block themselves.
Are you a maximizer or do you know someone who is?
Let´s do a test to find out:
The more you agree to the following statements, the more likely you are maximizer! To START: write down a number from 1 (= I disagree!) to 7 (= I fully agree!) for each item.
At the END add-up the score of the 13 statements. This score might range from a low 13 to a high 91.
1] Whenever I´m faced with a choice I try to imagine what all the other possibilities are, even ones that aren´t present at the moment.
2] No matter how satisfied I am with my job, it´s only right for me to be on the lookout for better opportunities.
3] When I am in the car listening to the radio, I often check other stations to see if something better is playing, even if I am relatively satisfied with what I´m listening to.
4] When I watch TV, I channel surf, often scanning through the available options even while attempting to watch one program.
5] I treat relationships like clothing: I expect to try a lot on before finding the perfect fit.
6] I often find it difficult to shop for a gift for a friend.
7] Renting videos is really difficult. I´m always struggling to pick the best one.
8] When shopping, I have a hard time finding clothing that I really love.
9] I´m a big fan of lists that attempt to rank things (the best movies, the best singers, the best athlets, the best novels, etc.)
10] I find that writing is very difficult, even if it´s just writing a letter to a friend, because it´s so hard to word things just right. I often do several drafts of even simple things.
11] No matter what I do, I have the highest standards for myself.
12] I never settle for second best.
13] I often fantasize about living in ways that are quite different from my actual life.
Your score: ______________
if your score is 65 or higher, you´re at the end of the maximizer scale!! If your score is 40 and below you´re rather a pleased and happy personality. ( B. Schwartz: The Paradox Of Choice )
Feel free to let me know what you´ve realized with your test-score! Did you block yourself off in the past due to maximizing? Or do you now understand why someone has trouble with decision making?
If you plan to reduce your maximum-thinking then become open to accept 80% – 90% instead of the ruling 100 %. Adjust your mental program!
BE A DECISION MAKER. BECOME OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –