“I Don´t Decide Emotional”

“Emotional Decisions? Are you serious?” “Yes.”

Human Beings decide emotionally.  It´s our limbic system which is relevant for our YES and all those NO´s.

Can we structure our emotional decision making?  Unaware of it – no.  But we go by coincidence!  The coincidence decides about a personal identification – the “Yes” is the answer.  The coincidence is our mechanism to shift onto the next level.  Its appearance flatters us to decide for the “yes”.  It´s the unplanned click, the not led next step by someone else.  It feels like a free decision to us.

I was on a massive job search 3 years ago.  Guess who interviewed me?  “Yes exactly, I was the coincidence for someone else and this person decided to invite me.”  I was picked by positive emotions of someone else.  Did I have a chance to influence it? NO, never.  It is a lottery game.

One young lady invited me because she had an aunt from the city I live in who was in a theatre group.  Both coincidental aspects were found by her in my resumé.

One man invited me because he had good friends from my hometown area.  It has actually nothing to do with me or the current job but it clicks with the other one.  Another man decided positively because his wife shared her birthday with me.  And then I met a few more interview partners who decided due to my skills and education.  As far as I know….

In a completely different situation I found myself deciding indirectly by reacting emotionally opposite to a potentially great result “against” this opportunity because I had trouble with huge uncertainties – a childhood programming which wasn´t under control yet.  Two seconds after I stepped out of the situation I woke up but found myself on the moving stairs “downwards”.  Hard to turn around and walk back…. I left with the wrong reaction which looked like a decision I took but it was a wrapped emotional reaction.  I felt hijacked by the shadow of myself.  And to me it was a good lesson learned!

Back to basics:  another step is – after we pick decisions emotionally – when we decide respectively by numbers.  Today, on a job search a number interferes with our survival.  The number related to a job interview is our salary, exactly.  All the wins up to the top might fail if you pick the non-matching number for the counterpart.  And that´s partly emotional fixed due to our fairness thinking ability.

Isn´t it quite chaotic how we take decisions, already living in the 21st Century?  We grab into our life-box which is full of past experience and pull out old stuff from the past to give us and others a chance – or not!  That´s how we decide first hand.  Still our “need” and “want” is triggered by emotions and other rules of course…..

Until the day we face a big loss, wake up and are able to decide consciously and appropriate to get to our next goal.  And the next one.  I think it´s fantastic!  ….. are you a fantastic decider?

BE A DECISION MAKER.  BECOME OUTSTANDING.

rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –