Life tests us quite often, right?
Sometimes we test ourselves, right?
But the moment when fate or someone else decides about what´s next on YOUR plate you only have 1 CHOICE: will I take it or will I pass it on(?) …. right?
Okay, here´s what this post is about:
If you know my story, you know that I couldn´t choose consciously either to take my fate or to pass it on to someone else. I HAD TO take it. Fact. Many of you, my dear readers, get the chance to decide whether to take a choice or NOT.
Many of you face the challenge to have so many options to choose from that you don´t think of the 1st step which is: defining the eliminating critera to cross out what´s not relevant for you and your life. Right? That might be hard to do, I agree.
In the meantime, as a result which developed throughout my life, I choose to consider my fate as a “role” I am willing to play, or not.
You know, I can choose to be the typical patient with a rare genetic disease who suffers the reality of NO research, no treatments nor a process to follow to reduce the outcome of the symptoms to a minimum. This fact forced me to play a victim of the 20th and 21st Century, almost for all my life. Being a kind of victim of a running system which doesn´t consider me/us at all taught me to dance in the rain – yes.
Since I choose LEARNING as a method to get out or away from this victim-role, one day, I found a solution. When I learned much – due to a ton of lack of information – I choose to start playing this role: learning taught me to write my script with my own lines, with MY communication and I knew where my stage was! I knew I was a lone player and my own director of the play, and that was the moment when everything slowly changed and then suddenly switched. I was holding the scepter in MY hands!
No more single power by the person on the other side of the table. I produced my own powerful role and I kept this power close to me like a friend, to be his teamplayer on the special stage. It chased my old fate away – for good.
Now back to you: YOU may have many choices, being challenged to eliminate those options which don´t really move you towards your dreams and goals. You also need orientation to be able to eliminate. Your method is to check out WHO you are: know your current education, your talents and your hobbies. That´s all what´s inside of you, what you own and what attracked you in the past before you accepted it in your life.
It´s part of your natural resonance. Therefore, gather all your single puzzle pieces and connect them to a bigger picture to be able to go out and get THE job!
After you did the maths (!) of this information, check out which job matches most and research what the markets asks for. You need to make money in life if it´s about a job!
Write down a few options on a piece of paper – and hey, I love the advice by John Baldoni! He speaks about a method how to pick a potential option and then check how it makes you feel if THIS is it, for good: Choice in a bowl
I never did that! Try it next time you don´t know which option to choose! Pick it like a self written lottery ticket! But just do it to check your feelings about it, about the consequences and the things you won´t get with this 1 choice. Deciding means to resign.
That´s a good method how to figure out who you are and what you´re most capable of, long-termly. The tactic when choosing is to see what´s most easy for you by talent and education because THEN, and only then you´ll have fun with what you do all day! Good feeling, good choice.
Be prepared with the selected options for the bowl and then test your feelings. Afterwards you may go deeper of why THIS one wasn´t feeling well as a next step decision and why THAT one made you feel very well! It helps you understand even better WHO you are.
You don´t have to take it all, choose wisely what to pass on and what to keep and work with! YOU have the choice if it is not offered by fate, because that´s a completely different story…..
BE A DECISION MAKER. BE OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect