People might critisize that you can´t explain a topic to an audience on a factual basis only. People might argue that it´s the EMOTIONS which lead to attention and sympathy. Right – but not always.
Still, I explain things on facts and ideas to you and I tend to stay away from emotions.
Why? We all know that decision making by emotions is exactly what doesn´t help us at all — often, it ruins our plans. Worst case, even our life. Best example, is how the police works when it comes to decision making. If the police has to make a decision, for example on arresting, there will be 3 active police officers as a team: 1 who interviews, 1 who watches the body language and keeps the ears open on true or false, and 1 who´s out of the emotional wave when it comes to arguments, and that´s the one who makes the decisions. This person is moving in the background of the storm.
Why decisions? What is different when we make decisions? Okay, here´s an easy comparison to look at the Black / White:
when we go with the flow in life and biz, we will keep our actions within the flow of installed (fitted) processes. As a consequence, we rather move on, passively. The process and the flow in the processes decide for us what we do, where we go, whom we meet. The environment offers opportunities and we choose from what´s near and quite easy to get. We stay with the flow. It´s called comfort zone.
when we try to get away from the fitted processes which seem to lead our life and job opportunities, we have to cut us off the flow. There is no process for change, nothing we can follow when we look for something else than what´s near. Therefore we cut us off with decision making, as a method. It is the jump onto another flow, without using a bridge. The prepared decision is the bridge which leads us over the rough river.
Deciding is like jumping! It´s a “no, thanks” to the old, and a “Yes!” for the new.
When we decide we should do it with a clear mind and without emotions. Yes, emotions might trigger us to decide for something new, or to let go of something bad/negative/unattractive – often it´s an impulse for change!
When we choose the new direction we actually have to sit down and prepare for it on a factual basis – to reach the goal with a happy ending. Fact!
Of course there is a great chance that when we´re triggered by emotions we will make good decisions, just to get way from something negative. But that means we´re already prepared well for this jump! Prepared means we know what we talk about, we did our homework about the topic or the problem and about what we can take or what we want to avoid for good.
Decisions shall lead into a better future, it´s a strategic jump onto a new path and it shall bring change. If this new change isn´t what we wanted, we make the next decision, we jump on, and we do it for so long until we belong into the new place.
If you ever were into sports at school or at university and today you remember what a highly disciplined training it took to prepare for the great jump – or what ever sport you did – do you think you prepared yourself on a emotional basis, mentally?
Hey, I doubt this – training for sports means to avoid emotions on any level once you go for it. Just for this moment or these few minutes, we need a clear mind and head. Our emotions arise automatically afterwards, once we won or probably failed.
When we start making decisions we plan to win! Right ?!?!?
If you plan to jump away from the past, think of deciding for something new and fitting! Get prepared –
BE A DECISION MAKER. BE OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect