This month I introduce the 5 decider types and today it´s about Mr. and Mrs. Insecure!
Insecure deciders are the people who afterwards REGRET what they decided for.
They might feel that they were persuaded by a friend or that someone else talked them into something, because they were INSECURE about a decision situation. Of course, insecure people ask for more information or a personal opinion and talk to other people about a decision trouble. It´s part of our experience.
Insecure people feel their somatic markers very well and have trouble finding the strategy to accord their mind with their somatic markers (the gut feeling). They suffer a kind of dis-connection. The conflict between various motives when making a decision is what troubles them most:
“Shall I help and do it althoug I don´t feel competent to take over the task of my colleague? But he asked so kind.”
“Shall I agree to be the proxy for a half day at work this week although I myself still have lots to do?” …..
No easy decision situation! Did the colleague talk you into it? And now you regret it?
Then read on:
Use a wise self-communication and tell yourself: “one moment!” Then step-back for a while. Think it over. Take time to make a wise decision. Take all the time you need! Decisions need to be in line with your needs! Best case, always.
If you don´t concentrate on your needs you will end up living the life of other people. That leads to regret! This is a circuit which automatically sets you back to “start”.
You might tend to excuse the small wrong decisions because there is worse in life but – BUT! The small wrong decisions will add up in life. Your personal well-being shall be the 1st and only rule in your life when it comes to decision making. We make a lot of decisions and our decisions lead us through life. Of course there are days that you agree to help a co-worker SHORT TERMLY or be the AD HOC proxy for tomorrow.
In the end you may ask yourself: “did I live MY life?” “Did I follow MY dreams?” Make sure you know which answer you truly want to hear from you….
BE A DECISION MAKER. BE OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –