Since the 1st time I am training people about decision making, I notice how much people rather react to standards and rules than truly decide for their best possible way. They´re trapped!
Still, every decision is launched by an emotional trigger. As long as everything goes smooth and well in peoples lives, none tries to change anything. Logically justified, any bigger change means deciding for “x”. Deciding means fighting! It´s a battle people start and it should only effect them and their own life. Best case!
But every culture and country lives in its own cultural form and system. At some point, people can´t decide but only choose. Choosing asks for several alternatives! So, lately I was asking myself: “what´s left for the people to decide about in their life?” Let me list you the answer:
If I go back to the point that people choose emotionally, because things have to match to their inner picture, then it´s simply proof if everyone, including me, decides for what feels best.
People decide by thinking: “which people FEEL BEST next to me, as friends, coach or business partners? Who speaks my language by experiencing similar life challenges? Who is a rather locked-up or open-minded personality as I am?” People have to decide on an emotional level to make sure they will survive. Fact.
Imagine the de-placed stress some people capture in the beginning when entering the big Corporate World after a leader places a non matching person into a great team or into a “running” group of their office space? Again – this is about relationships! If people can´t decide about it, someone else will. At work people have to trust that they will match the group. At home, people choose wisely and test.
- What do you do as a Leader of the Corporate World to make sure a new personality is going to match the running team?
- And what do you do as a private person, to make sure you add the right people to your circle of (true) friends?
This question goes beyond the mixture of holding on to the traditional rule of adding a controller, a preserver, an innovative and a communicative person to each team. Today this old method changed to choosing a consultant, a creative, a practical doer, a sales type and an organizer to each team. It´s less about the character leaders bring into their teams. It´s more about the necessary tasks and getting things done ability each leader may choose.
And on top, it´s about choosing the matching person to complete each circle.
Again I am asking you today: WHAT do you do and prepare to be able to choose the ideal match to each group and team? Thanks for your comment –
BE A DECISION MAKER. BE OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –