In early December this year, John Assaraf interviewed Dr. Ron Siegel (HMS) about “mindfulness” and connected the topic to 1 step of our decision making: the short-term emotion.
The clear message from Dr. Siegel is that mindfulness benefits our decision making! And there is just 1 step for everyone to get there by using the simple technique of being aware of our daily thoughts and our daily self-communication.
Dr. Siegel mentions the attitude of being aware, being present during active experiencing and being able to accept. That means in a different way: have all your lights on to see where you are, view your position and situation from a distance and watch what you are experiencing. Did you ever practise this?
One difficult thing, which wasn´t mentioned during their interview, is that we have the problem that we view our present activity through our eyes, like permanently looking through a lense “onto something”, and then everything is just in front of us. We simply don´t see us in the middle of it. Therefore we need to create distance.
Dr. Siegel recommends to develop mindfulness!
And this is the tricky part when we make decisions: programmed by nature in critical situations we tend to either fight or flee. The amygdala in our brain fires impulses to do either one thing, and to act effective (fast). As long as we react to our amygdala without thinking actively over how we tend to….. we keep it busy firing and active. Now here´s the clue: the less we use and respond to the amygdala, the more we are conscious & controlled which switches off the amygdala – and this conscious neglecting shrinks that little thing in our brain.
We can overcome the emotional reactions! But, what causes this fight or flee effect? It´s our fear. How do we fight fear? With courage, exactly. And here´s another clue from Dr. Siegel: courage is having fear but acting anyway without being distressed. He suggests to stop fighting against distress, but accept the natural emotion of fear. The tense goes away. He says: “Emotions are like the weather, they come and go.”
If you put “using courage” now onto your 2015 goal-list, then add to become mindful and aware to accept fear and to answer with courage. For those of you who love numbers & maths:
mindfulness = fear + courage
Mindfulness is looking at your daily thoughts from a distance. Accepting fear switches off the short-term emotion (de-activates the amygdala) and allows to add courage for action!
……any thoughts or examples from your side?
BE A DECISION MAKER. BE OUTSTANDING.
rita jaskolla – Leadership Architect –